Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Responsibility and choices

Last year a student came and told me she was pregnant and had an appointment to have an abortion, but that she was reconsidering her decision. As I tried to talk her out of the abortion, I silently implored God that He would give me the words to say. I am very sad to say that it now appears that she did have the abortion.

One of the things she said during our conversation kept going through my mind today. When I suggested that she consider giving the baby up for adoption, she said, "oh, I would never do something so irresponsible." After I managed to pick my jaw up off of the floor I asked her what she meant. She said, "If I'm not going to raise the child myself I won't have it, that would be irresponsible." I told her I didn't think that was irresponsible at all, but rather that it was a gift to the child and the adoptive parents. She said, "Oh, I know. I just want to take care of my problems myself. " I was stunned into silence at this "logic". I mean, what the freak is that about?

This conversation was on my mind, because today, my sister and brother-in-law legally adopted my niece. It was a very, very happy day for my family. I am so thankful that my niece's birth mother didn't think of her as a problem to be taken care of, because she is a gift to my family to be certain.

Welcome to the family, Peanut!


Kathy Farrelly said...

"oh, I would never do something so irresponsible." How deeply sad, that giving a child life could be construed as such.

Jesus Weeps.

Elusive Wapiti said...

Ugh. What a terrible story. Sad to know that there is one little one murdered because his/her mother thought it better to kill him/her than to give it up to a loving couple for adoption.

Where I'm at in Wyo there is a huge wait list of people looking to adopt. Believe it or not, there just aren't enough babies to go around.

I seriously don't understand abortion under circumstances such as these, when there are great couples with money and resources literally lining up to take an unwanted child.

Anonymous said...

Feminist thinking claims another tiny victim.

IF SHE DID IT, that girl is, in my CHRISTIAN opinion, a selfish murderess and an unrepentant whore.

God should destroy this planet now before mankind can pollute itself any further.

Am I angry? You bet. I'm not afraid to call these women out with the correct terms, as stated above.

She's a:




Male Samizdat said...

Typical feminist thinking. "It's all about me."

For you men out there: never, EVER marry a woman who supports abortion, and ESPECIALLY never marry one who has had an abortion. If she can't love her own flesh and blood, she will never love you.

Learner said...


It is unspeakably sad.

Learner said...


There are wait lists for infant adoptions all over the country I think. I know that my sister and bro-in-law waited almost 2 years to get my niece and only got her at their ages (mid 40s) because she was a very premature baby and has some developmental issues (though she is doing very well).

It is beyond me to understand how a mother can kill her own child because of inconvenience or embarrassment.

Learner said...


I agree that abortion is one of the absolute worst consequences of feminism and feminist thought (and considering what negative things have arisen out of feminism that is saying a lot). I recently read that an estimated 43% of all women will have at least 1 abortion by the time they are 45. It is absolutely insane and amoral.

To be honest I struggle greatly with how to react to students when they tell me. A large part of me wants to shake or slap them and scream "DON'T KILL YOUR BABY!!!!" But, then I think that if my goal is to prevent the abortion, reacting in that way, just once, with a student would probably ensure that no other students would ever come to me again. If they don't come to me, I miss the opportunity to make the argument for life. But, it still keeps me up at night sometimes.

Learner said...


For you men out there: never, EVER marry a woman who supports abortion

I agree with you and would give the same advice to women concerning men who support abortion. A person would have to do some serious mental and moral gymnastics to believe that murdering a child, and especially your own child, is anthing other than the lowest and most despicable of acts.

"Choice" my ass.